Heal+Let Go=Grow

Hi Sisters!

How are you? How was your Christmas? How was your New Years? What have you been up to? Has your 2019 started off right? Have you been accomplishing some of the goals you have set? Have you given yourself PERMISSION to begin? Or are you ready to start your new year over? Give me an update on how you have been!

Well your sister has been reflecting, spending time with family, eating all the foods I shouldn’t be eating, and I have been somewhat on the road. I was in Dubai for 2 weeks with Brave by Faith Travel an organization that I serve with! I know… Yessss Dubai!! Sooooo which one of my sisters is joining me in Dubai next time? I’m sooo serious! Like let’s get our coins together sis! Let’s pack our bags NOW! I’m ready for another girl’s trip! I am definitely going to do a blog post on my experience in Dubai! I want all of my sisters to be very familiar with BRAVE BY FAITH TRAVEL! Every woman on the planet needs to know about these amazing retreats!

In December I talked about us giving ourselves full permission to begin what God has placed on our hearts. During that time I was in a place where I wanted to take leaps of faith but I was afraid of the un-known. Can anyone relate to that feeling?

As I was thinking sis I realized that YES I am excited that I am giving myself full permission to begin, but I HAVE NOT GIVEN MYSELF FULL PERMISSION TO HEAL. As I glance back I can see how I never took time to heal from past relationships. What I ended up doing was leaving one relationship and entering into another relationship carrying the same baggage because I did not take time to heal, to process what happened, to reflect on who I was in that situation. I never could GROW because I didn’t take time to LET GO.

I now ask myself why didn’t I take the time to heal from those relationships. Because Sisss my heart was broken, I was irritated, I was confused. But was I trying to avoid what truly happened? Was I embarrassed? Did I just want to escape being lonely? What was it?

Yah know Sis, I always thought it was better for me to not wear a Band-Aid when I got a bruise from an accident. However, scientists are saying that wounds can only heal properly if they are covered. They have to be covered so they don’t become infected…. Hmmmm! Are you feeling that? That’s A WORD! OUR WOUNDS CAN ONLY HEAL PROPERLY IF THEY ARE COVERED! Covered by God’s word, covered by seeing a therapist, covered by morning devotion, covered by prayer, covered by journaling, covered by mediating, covered by serving, covered by fasting, covered by exercising, covered by taking leaps of faith, covered by getting rest so you can be your best, covered by eating the right foods, covered by learning WHO YOU ARE!

Sisss…. If we don’t cover our wounds they will become infected. Infected by the enemy, infected by the wrong people in our life, infected by jealousy, infected by a lack of boundaries, infected by ongoing pain, infected by a pattern of broken relationships, infected by depression, infected by high blood pressure, infected by anxiety, infected by chronic health diseases, infected by a lack of prayer, infected by burnout, infected by NOT KNOWING WHO YOU TRULY ARE..

Sis, I believe it is time for us to cover our wounds so we can properly heal. Because right now some of our wounds are infected by the baggage we keep carrying. Some of us have been through some very uncontrollable circumstances. Some of us have lost a loved one and we were never able to heal from there lost. There are some of us that have been raped or molested and we kept those things inside for so long that we never got a chance to heal. Some of us have been hurt and abandoned by a family or friend and we were never able to forgive or heal from those experiences. Some of us are still experiencing pain from a past relationship that we never got to heal from. There are some of us that have had abortions and we never knew how to heal from that experience because we keep feeling ashamed. Some of us are trying to heal from a divorce. Some of us are trying to heal from a miscarriage. Some of us have been trying to heal from using drugs and alcohol.

Side bar! Can I just say that seeing a therapist DOES NOT MAKE YOU CRAZY! You are not weird for wanting to speak with someone about your life. I saw a therapist for the first time a few months ago anddddddddd it was greeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaattttt! It felt so good to get some heavy things off my chest. I encourage anyone that is thinking of going to therapy to truly invest in the investment. You are worth investing in yourself! Therapy is a form of healing some of your wounds. #Thereisnothingwrongwiththerapy

I am ready to begin this healing journey! I am tired of not covering my wounds and allowing them to become infected. Sis lets heal together. Will you join me? I am praying for you… & pleaseeeee pray for me…..

RECOMMENDED HEALING TOOLS

Healing Bible Verse: “But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” Philippians 3:13

Recommended Book: Sis, the recommended book for our healing journey is Healing the Soul of a Woman- by Joyce Meyers. Am I the only one that likes Auntie Joyce? Sis, snatch this book ASAP!!

Healing Quote: “Your healing journey begins when you allow yourself to let go, so you can grow.” -Najma Calhoun

Healing Journal Exercise- Take time to write down everything you have experienced that has impacted you in a negative way. You can write about all of your bruises that you want to heal. Then write down ways you plan on healing. Is that reading the word, praying more, seeing a therapist, journaling, mediating? After that I want you to create your own affirmation that you will say to yourself everyday while you are on your healing journey. Lastly, take time to pray with God ask him to guide you and be with you on this healing journey.

Sis I am cheering for you! We can heal together! I am excited that our wounds will be covered and healed by God’s love and grace!

Love, Hugs, & Prayers!

Xoxoxoxo

Your Sister- Najma Calhoun